![]() ![]() She’s known for her practical solutions to life’s challenges and her ability to tell you not what you want to hear but always what you need. Niamh Ennis is Ireland’s leading Transformation Coach, Author and Coach for the IMAGE Business Club. Your mind lies to you often, but your heart never does. Be very aware of what works best for you, especially at times of difficulty and always listen to what your heart needs. ![]() Remember that you are not born resilient. This might sound simple but it’s incredibly effective for shifting your energy. If you love the sound of the ocean, take yourself to somewhere that reminds you of it, if you love your furry friends then take your dog out for a long walk and if you don’t have a dog, borrow one! Think about what it is that makes you feel better when you do it, it could be going for a massage, ordering your favourite food, hiding away with a good book or setting off on a hike. Now, this clearly isn’t permission to dive into an endless supply of wine but it is permission to cut yourself some slack. Granted, it won’t make your problems go away, but it will bring some joy into your life when let’s face it, you need it most. Resilience is evident when we can exist in the chaos and pain of life and trust that, in time, it too will pass.ĭoing anything you love makes you feel better. It’s worth noting that when I fully acknowledge what’s going in is usually the same time that the healing begins. It also stops me from catastrophising! Then I’m ready to speak to someone about it and the final stage is when I start to plan my pathway out of it. My first reaction is to journal endlessly, as I find that expressing just how I feel on paper, really helps connect with exactly how I feel about what has happened. When something happens that I don’t like, I sit with it. This did not serve me well the truth is it just doesn’t work as we can only avoid things for so long. I mentioned earlier that my way of coping in the past was to plough on ahead and avoid the fact that everything was falling down around me. None of us were meant to do this business of life alone, so find your people and when you find them, hang on to them! We can all easily identify those who are only there when times are good, but it’s locating those who remain during the darker times that will add real value to your life. Finding your support team ensures that you always have access to this. You might not necessarily want advice but you will always feel that desire to be heard. Whether it’s a family member, a professional or a close friend being able to articulate your pain and worries truly makes a marked difference. Having someone to share your challenges with, inevitably will lighten your load. “Why are you so mean to yourself, and what would happen if you weren’t?” If you struggle with this, then can I recommend that you ask yourself ‘What would I say to a close friend right now? What would I tell her to do? How would I help her?” Often, this perspective reveals some observations that can genuinely surprise you. ![]() I know this has the potential to be an eye-roll moment, but you really do need to be a lot more compassionate with how you speak to yourself, think of yourself and treat yourself. To help I’ve identified some quick tips on how to increase your own personal resilience. Whichever definition resonates with you, the outcome should be to ensure you can cope when things go wrong. It’s about accepting your new reality even when it looks a lot worse than what was there before. For me, resilience is also about learning how to cope with the bad stuff, dealing with it, learning from it and getting back out there – in spite of it. The dictionary tells us resilience is “the ability to be knocked down by the hardships of life and come back at least as strong as before, being able to change course, emotionally heal, and continue moving towards your goal”. ![]()
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